She’s in Love!

She’s in Love!

To inspire YOU, how about if I share a success story with you!

Let’s call her Camille.

When I met Camille, she was in a 3 year long distance relationship.  4 hours driving long…  Her intention was to find a way to get her boyfriend to love her more.  He was good looking and successful, so she was not going to give up on him.  In her mind, he was a catch!

This was a typical weekend for them.  She would drive 4 hours to his place, because her place was too far.  The weekend was always about what he wanted to do, and rarely did they have time alone.  It always a social event with a group of people.  By the end of the weekend, they would get in a fight and should would leave early, upset and would not talk for days, till she called him to apologize for getting upset.  Never, never would he hear or care about her upsets.

It was easy to see Camille’s broken patterns.

  1. She was a crumb catcher!  Meaning she would accept his crumbs (minimal attention), and made excuses for his bad behavior.
  2. She’d do all the heavy lifting.  He didn’t have to travel 4 hours to visit her, because she made it easy for him.  He didn’t have to show up and demonstrate he’s into her.
  3. The way to a man’s heart is to spoil him, thinking he would want her more.  Wrong! This is the way to teach a man to take you for granted.  Which he did!

As you can imagine if she stayed in this relationship, nothing would have changed.  You don’t turn these kind of relationships around.  Her mistake was that she wanted a man who clearly was not into her, to somehow fall in love and start behaving like a man that couldn’t live without her.

Note: Even if a man mumbles the L word, if he’s not afraid of losing you, all you’ve got is a man who uses that word loosely.

How did we cure her situation?

For starters, I coached her to see this guy for who he really was.  He was a man who had multiple girlfriends (unbeknownst to her) and did not want an intimate relationship.  Second, she created this disaster by being willing to go along with it.  She could have saved two and a half of her prime years by knowing when to give up and move on.  She needed to learn to love herself and value what she offers a man, so she could shift her intention from impressing and appealing to a man, to waiting for a man who sees her and pursues her.

Camille, dated a few more men, and quickly fell for a guy who declared his love for her after one date.  I’m telling you this, because I want you to know it’s a process.  Camille needed to be burned one more time before she was ready to embrace and grow into a woman who deserves the kind of love that my program produces.   Guess what…

Camille is now married!  

She became her authentic self.  She stopped being what she thought men wanted.  She stopped accepting crumbs and started trusting that someone special would love her and her life just as it was.  But most of all, she followed the whole plan.  She invested in herself and her love life.

Her husband is not perfect.  But he is the perfect partner for her.  He adores her and works on the relationship.  He is there for every aspect of her messy life.  Even when the kids /grand kids had to move in!

I want you to know that 80% of the women I coach, fall in love, but maybe 50% achieve my brand for special love.  I’ll tell you why.   Every woman’s path is different.

I want you to know, I am not talking about average love.  I’m talking about the kind of love that is deep and committed and rich in partnership.  My women all share the realization that they never known a love like this was out there.  Sure maybe 5% of the public achieve this without painful lessons.  But the rest of us, who had poor relationship modeling, self esteem issues, or whatever in our past that cultivated our willingness to accept crumbs or struggles in love, we need help.  An intervention or a light to show us the truth.

Of all the women I have met and coached, the ones that achieve off the charts love (like my sister has) was because they are completely open with me and text or call me every step of the way.  It’s a process.

The REAL success happens when they open up to me and USE me!  Of course my time it’s not free.  If it was, you wouldn’t value it!

Camille ultimately had success because she was open and vulnerable with me divulging everything to me.  What he said, what he texted, how they met, what mistakes were made, what concerns she had.    And every step of the way, I told her what to do, when to do it and what to say, until it changed the way she thought and she could fly on her own!

If you get one impression from this email, I want you to know this success is not unique.  It happens to every woman I work with that is  a) willing to actively date  b) follows my guidance  c) is vulnerable, open, truthful with me and communicates with me, like I was her confidant.

If you want this kind of love, reach out to me.  Even if you just have a simple question, call, text or email.

You know, I am all about guiding women to happy relationships.  I want that for you too!

I hope this email inspired you and maybe spoke to something that’s on your mind right now.

About denise

Denise teaches courses that lead to happy women finding great guys and having extraordinary relationships. Devoted to transforming the minds and hearts of women to their own value, understanding of men, and the virtues of partnership. By focusing on partnership skills, Denise's teachings prepare women for an amazing and enduring love.

After a full career as a corporate trainer and process analyst, Denise turned those skills into her crusade to help women discover that great relationships starts with self love and greater standards for choosing a mate. In enlightening workshops Denise shares her best wisdoms and skills revealed after years of teaching effective Partnership courses to couples. Denise's breakthrough moment came when it occurred to her that if she taught women BEFORE they started a relationship, she would ultimately save women from needing workshops or therapy designed to fix or save their marriages.

Denise's husband, partner and love of her life often is a guest at her courses, where the women love to hear his insights. They live in northern California in the Sierra foothills. Their hobby is a continual dream to create the perfect home. (because remodeling is her guilty pleasure!)

Men Will Notice You, Even if You Are Overweight!

Men Will Notice You, Even if You Are Overweight!

Let me start by asking you a question…

Which would you say is your experience?

  1. While out socially (parties or clubs) men don’t notice you, or ask you out.
  2. On your dates men don’t seem to be attracted to you.
  3. Online men don’t engage with you or ask you out

There could be several issues at hand.  Since I don’t have the benefit of seeing you face to face and watching how you interact with men.  Let me start you off with some new thoughts.  Because, what you don’t know right now is contributing to your unsuccess with men.

Before I launch into some advice or suggestions, let me start with some inspiration.

Story: RoseAnn

I had a friend who was single and off the market for 20+ years. Dating was not an option for her, let alone love. Or so she thought.  After all she was obese, and did not have what most considered a pretty face. Being a good friend of mine, she witnessed my love life transformation first hand and stunned by my results, she wanted to know, what caused the great change in me!

Because, without going into great detail (you can read my story later), I had changed from being too picky and unsuccessful in love, then suddenly, practically overnight was engaged to an amazing man!

Whatever I got she wanted it!  My single friends all eager to learned what changed my life, asked me to teach them.   That’s how I started teaching women how to be successful in love.

Within 2 months of taking my class, armed with clarity about what men are looking for, but more importantly what was the secret to being irresistible to men, she was now free to date.  Not only was she now open to dating, she was a dating machine.  She was on fire!

You want to appreciate this was the first time in 20+ years, plus, she was empowered to date several men at once!

Now for the shocking news.  Believe it or not, she never changed her appearance.  She didn’t wait till she lost weight, she didn’t buy a new wardrobe, she simply discovered new realities about men and was liberated and excited to flirt with men.

But flirting wasn’t the only cause for her success.  She was inspired by new insights she learned about men.

Insights like:

  • What causes men to notice women
  • What will guarantee a second and third date
  • How to behave on dates
  • How to be a woman that men find irresistible
  • How to catch men and keep them
  • How to be a great partner

The reason why men now found her attractive was because the information she learned caused her true personality and authenticity to be revealed and men noticed!  You know the expression: knowledge is power.  Well in this case, the new knowledge gave her confidence and clarity.

No longer was she confused or daunted by dates.  Instead, feeling grounded with this new information, she became a woman who was fun to date and someone men found irresistible.  So much so, that she seriously was dating a lot of men, and wait for it… was engaged within months.  RoseAnn is married to a man who to this day is still madly in love with her.

Now you might be asking yourself was this a fluke?  Was RoseAnn just a special story?

My awakening happened in 2000

I call it my awakening, because it felt exactly like that.  I was in my forties, clueless about why I was not successful in love.  Then, I took a course about men and the irresistible connection that causes men to be want to be great partners.  The information opened my eyes. So much so, that learning about men and relationships became my passion.  What I learned was a key that opened a door.  Nothing I heard or learned before clicked until that course. No matter the book or course or life experience.  Everything made more sense after learning the missing keys.

Loaded with new clarity and the gift of being a great teacher, I have been teaching women my secrets ever since.

So, getting back to the original inquiry, how to get men to notice you.  I could recommend a style expert to you, but the inner transformation will give you greater results.

Start with a starter course.  Let’s awaken the inner goddess in you and teach what you need to know to be more successful in love!

 

About denise

Denise teaches courses that lead to happy women finding great guys and having extraordinary relationships. Devoted to transforming the minds and hearts of women to their own value, understanding of men, and the virtues of partnership. By focusing on partnership skills, Denise's teachings prepare women for an amazing and enduring love.

After a full career as a corporate trainer and process analyst, Denise turned those skills into her crusade to help women discover that great relationships starts with self love and greater standards for choosing a mate. In enlightening workshops Denise shares her best wisdoms and skills revealed after years of teaching effective Partnership courses to couples. Denise's breakthrough moment came when it occurred to her that if she taught women BEFORE they started a relationship, she would ultimately save women from needing workshops or therapy designed to fix or save their marriages.

Denise's husband, partner and love of her life often is a guest at her courses, where the women love to hear his insights. They live in northern California in the Sierra foothills. Their hobby is a continual dream to create the perfect home. (because remodeling is her guilty pleasure!)

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