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"He loves me? He loves me not?" It's a question that's been around as long as humanity has. These days, we also hear, "He's just not that into you," thrown around a lot. In a time when values and relationship patterns are changing, when divorce rates are sky high, and when technology seems to only make things more confusing, it's easy to question whether you're interpreting his behavior properly, and whether you have some idea of what he really wants, but the good news is that there's an easy way to gauge his interest...
Let's say you've just gone on a date with a guy you're interested in, and you don't hear from him the next day, or even the next couple days. This is a blip in time, and whether he likes you or not, it's too soon to
Tell me if this sounds familiar:
You meet a guy you like, but he doesn't seem motivated to commit or be exclusive with you. You respond by giving him affection, attention, sex, gifts, and maybe even start cleaning his house/apartment. You may also refuse to see other men, and let him know that you just want to be with him. By doing all of this, you are hoping he will discover what an amazing girlfriend you are, and that he will finally decide to be your boyfriend. After all, where else is he going to find someone amazing enough to do all those things for him automatically? Believe it or not, this is a huge mistake! Why?
Wouldn't it be great if we could easily identify a King from a Pawn? Below I came up with a list of character traits about men, if they were chess pieces. It's just for fun. But if you look closer, you might even discover a lesson.
The Pawn – Non committal guys, they are your basic toads. They are everywhere, a dime a dozen and you have to go through a lot of them. They come in the form of either chasers, con artists, sex scorers, out casts.
Castle – This is the married guy that steals you heart, but he has his own castle to keep in tact. In other words, no matter how much he SAYS he loves you, and that you are his woman of his dreams, if he still honors the wife and you feel like you are not his top priority, then you can be assured, he won't leave his wife. He just wants you on the side.
Bishop – He moves quickly, and is what every women think is their first choice. He is either charming, good looking, smooth, or has the broad appeal like a movie star would. But, his attention is on his own needs and his eye is always looking for something else. He can even seem like the perfect guy, and convinces you that a life where you both are responsible for your own happiness is the right
Imagine a life, where you can say anything to your man, and he won't get upset, act defensively, shut down or leave you.
To achieve that is simple. There are rules to follow.
Truth or Dare! Do you lose respect for men who are too accommodating?
A woman asked my husband, “Will you bark four times if your wife asks? Laughing, my husband politely replied , "You don't know men really well, do you"?
Her question insinuated that men who respond to their partners’ needs are “whipped”. Especially if he is willing to do ANYTHING for his partner. The reality of this heartbreaking statement is that it demonstrates the fear and misunderstanding women have about the value in letting a man feel empowered by fulfilling her desires. The question is how do you know if your man is whipped or you are a wimp?
Do you think you could ever talk to your man about what kind of engagement ring you want, or do you think you should just wait until he is on bended knee to find out if he has taste in jewelry? Are you comfortable knowing you could either be delighted with his choice or have to fake your happiness with the ring? What is the right way to handle this? Let's follow the story of our heroin Jill, and how her engagement ring was chosen.
For the past year, Jack and Jill had been falling deeper and deeper in love. They had some conversations about their future together, so the idea of marriage was like a seed that had already been planted. Yet, there was still a lot to resolve because they hadn't discussed "everything", so Jill didn't have a very clear sense of when Jack would pop the question.