If you are tired, hurt or confused about men and relationships...Ask Denise!
For all you fabulous ladies out there in the dating world, there's one little slip up that's so common, we need to discuss it with you. It may seem like something small and relatively unimportant, but it's much bigger than you think. Do you know how to take a compliment? Rejecting compliments while dating is not the way to go if
Here is an interesting idea. If you were cheated from a having a Valentine's day "anything", should you ask for a redo. Recently a friend of mine shared with me that her teenage daughter insisted her boyfriend provide a Valentine's redo. She said the she got the idea from reading my book. Nah! That's not possible, I don't suggest that in my book. And then days later, I hear of another person using that same term: Valentine's Redo! So I started to think about it. Here is my thoughts on the subject, you won't want to miss it. I think this could be revolutionary!
"He loves me? He loves me not?" It's a question that's been around as long as humanity has. These days, we also hear, "He's just not that into you," thrown around a lot. In a time when values and relationship patterns are changing, when divorce rates are sky high, and when technology seems to only make things more confusing, it's easy to question whether you're interpreting his behavior properly, and whether you have some idea of what he really wants, but the good news is that there's an easy way to gauge his interest...
Let's say you've just gone on a date with a guy you're interested in, and you don't hear from him the next day, or even the next couple days. This is a blip in time, and whether he likes you or not, it's too soon to
One of the most prevalent problems I see in single women is desperation, pure and simple. And it's no wonder, when our first impression of the opposite sex was made when we were all going through our hormonally charged puberty phase. At that age, it's easy to adopt the belief that guys are motivated by sex and not relationships. Do you remember hearing lines like, "You are a tease," and similar statements to make it seem like all they want is to get you into bed? Naturally, the underlying message we've received that colors our reaction to men is that they don't really want a relationship. We just have to convince them they do. It wasn't until I was in my forties that I realized that men really do want a relationship like I do. I'd simply been dating the wrong men! The kind that are always looking for greener pastures and therefore leave me waiting by the phone or only getting time with them when it works for them. And you know when that is...
Standards? What's wrong with my standards? I'm picky. In fact, I'm too picky! I have a very specific kind of guy in mind for myself, and I find it impossible to bother with other guys who don't fit those standards. I know what hair and eye color I want, what height is acceptable, how much he should earn... I could go on and on!
Here's my answer to this kind of reaction, which I hear ALL the time. There is nothing wrong with being discriminating, except... you are being picky about the wrong things, and need to raise your standards in other areas. I'm sure you've found guys that fit your criteria, whether it's based on how he looks, or how much he earns, but you're still single, or you wouldn't be reading this! What went wrong? Ever been with
Newsflash ladies! If you want to find a man who loves you for who you are, then you can't pretend to be someone else while you're dating!
This may seem obvious, but so many women go out of their way to feign interest in topics and activities that they really have no interest in while dating. He might be charming, good looking and successful, but turning yourself into someone else to attract him is a recipe for tears. Let me explain why in a simplified scenario.